So like I'm having issues lately... the purpose of this thread isn't to brag or nothing about how many chicks I can get etc., but recently, with this fall's new influx of sorority girls and old flames that never went out coming together all at once, I'm stuck in a dilemma with several girls, and I've already asked a couple friends about this and they've all given me pretty much the same answers, but I want to see what other people think, or any good advice that I can maybe pick up...

The following text is from an AIM conversation I had with someone, I'll take out her name to protect her, especially since she reads these boards once in a while.

ShaDoWxDT: 1 is a cute blonde and thinks i'm cute, she's joining a sorority of all bitches ( I say the word bitches because within one year, they all become really stuck up, not just using that word for the sake of calling women "bitches") who all seem to love me because I'm the guy that reminds them of their asshole boyfriends from high school
ShaDoWxDT: 1 is a pretty decent red head, that is ridiculously sprung on me, i just got off the phone with her and we were talking for like an hour or so, and she asked me to her sorority formal
ShaDoWxDT: 1 is some chick that isn't the worst looking, but still kinda cute and like told me she wants to fuck my brains out
ShaDoWxDT: then there are these 2 girls who are sorority sister with the psycho chick who wants to fuck my brains out, these 2 girls are sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ooooooooooooooooooooo hot
ShaDoWxDT: 1 is talking with another guy, but still hangs out with me every week and shit and her friend is hot too, not as hot but has shitloads of money and we kinda like each other
ShaDoWxDT: then there is this girl I knew from last year, looks exactly like JLo, face and ass and tits especially
ShaDoWxDT: she really likes me but she is a virgin and all scarred I think that I am a frat guy
ShaDoWxDT: I'd go out with the last girl in a second, but if I fuck her, I'd have a mental case following me for the rest of my life, i know
ShaDoWxDT: thats it, so what should I do?


Now I know what I wrote in my casual AIM conversation isn't exactly politically correct and what not, so bear that in mind, and if you feel the need to flame me, go for it, I'm used to you guys, but this is a pretty serious issue for me. My main concern though is after I finally decide who the right girl is, how do I break it off with the others and still keep good relations with them, because sometimes I'll be totally cool with girls even after all the bad things that follow and sometimes a girl will be so hurt from a decision I made that she'll never want to hang out with my or my fraternity bro's again, which is what I definatley don't want, it's not good for PR.

So please... any suggestions?

Are you looking for meaningless sex or a meaningful relationship?

I would lie and say I'm over the whole meaningless sex stage of my life, but it's so much fun and with my genes I'll probably be bald and fat in a few years so I dunno.

Then hook up with the hottest girl you can. Pretty much, find the girl that your friends envy the most, and get her.. use her, lose her, NEXT.. wash, rinse, repeat.

I still have to keep good relationships with all these girls, since I see them every week so like that won't work I don't think, Zark.

Then dont date any of them and just masturbate in your dorm room nightly :)

Fuck all of them.

Unless these are people you want to keep around the rest of your life, they don't mean shit.

Now see Marz, I've been fucked over in the past by girls doing that exact same thing. While it's easy to say, and even though I may never see some of those girls for the rest of my life, I'd still have to live with my actions the same way I still deal with old heartbreaks and fuckovers from back in the day once reminded of them.

looks like you are too busy fucking yourself over to be worried about fucking any of those chicks...

id go for the red head cuz red heads are fiyah in bed

Dear Shewdogg:

You only mentioned that you actually 'kinda like' one of the girls on that whole long laundry list (other than the one that you are 'afraid' to date). Couple of things here: 1) Be honest with yourself about what you want. If you want something that's not too serious right now, I'd go have myself a good time with the girl that you have a *mutual* attraction with. You have to come up for air sometime, and wouldn't you rather be able to enjoy each other's company in between those sweaty moments? Also, just because a girl 'likes' you, that doesn't mean there's any obligation on your part to respond to that if you don't feel the same way. Finally, as a gentle warning/reality check looking over your laundry list, men often mistake simple female friendliness for sexual interest/availability, which may not be the case (*gobs* of studies backing this up).

Second thing: You say that you'd date this 'virgin' in a heartbeat, but that she is (I am guessing you meant to say scared instead of scarred :) ) afraid of you because you're a frat guy. Well, there might be a valid reason for that fear (I don't even drink, but was sexually assaulted in college in a frat house by a supposed friend), but I'm more interested in what your reasons are for wanting to date her :). If you really like her, and are willing to give more than lip service to being in a relationship with her, then don't worry about her being a virgin. We all have to start sometime, and yes, being someone's 'first' usually requires special care and grooming, but if you think that the rewards would be worth it, then go for it (and be prepared for an astronomical phone bill ;) ). If you're not willing to take the plunge, then *don't* open that can of worms...

Since you haven't given many details about any of the women here (other than their physical/material attributes ;) ), it's tough to offer any more detailed advice, but I would not fret too much about alienating the other girls if you decide to date someone steady. Women, even the ones who are really crazy about you, usually respect that sort of thing, and the ones who don't, also won't care that you *are* seeing someone else if they want to have a romp with you, for what that's worth to you ;)...

Regards,
Nydia Ywalmoriel
Autonomous Collective

All of them.

Was that even a serious question?

Tough decesion.. sry i cant rly help you.. but with all the girls on ur tail u must be hawt :) I hope ya make the right decision.. gl bro.

Not a fan of the ladies are ya Talari

I love the ladies.. but there is a difference. They dont love me :p

I don't care hot how they are or what they'll do in bed. If you've got other options, my advice is to stay the hell away from the mental cases.

Pick the one you WANT to be with simple. You stated there was one you were interested

Get them together and get them drunk. Then get them to kiss each other and bone all of em shew. This way they cannot get mad because they were "helping" you out!

Gotta agree with gerf on this one, just make sure you got a video camera set up. +)

Yup, Video camera with streaming video.

put it up online, and don't attempt to cover it up by taking off your t-shirt, and throwing it over the camera

ShaDoWxDT: then there are these 2 girls who are sorority sister with the psycho chick who wants to fuck my brains out, these 2 girls are sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ooooooooooooooooooooo hotIf you can get these two at the same time, that's the way to go.

Have your fun, then go for the girl you'll take home to mommy.

Shew, I'm sending you a bill for Sunday's counseling session.

Seeing as you are in college I'm putting your age between 18 and 22 and in my opinion that is too young for any serious relationship. Enjoy yourself, have fun, have SAFE sex, get good grades - it doesn't get any easier so enjoy this time in your life. When you look back on your college years do you wanna say "yeah I partied and I had a great time and I don't regret a single minute of it" or do you want to be stuck with "yeah it was alright but I really wish I'd fucked the red head instead of getting into a serious relationship that sucked all the fun right out of my early 20's".

As far as dating one and remaining friends with the rest I'd have to say you're screwed - it rarely works out that way. Are these relationships ones that you are hoping will last the rest of your life or do you just want to get along until college is over? Maybe you should only have sex with off campus girls and stay friends with the on campus girls - in other words...don't shit where you eat. From the tone of your post I'd say you're not really interested in anything serious with any of them because you appear to be looking at the superficialities...not that there's anything wrong with that.

My suggestions is do what you're gonna do, be as kind as you can and try not to scar these women for life because as you may or may not know women have great memories and an uncanny ability to recall any event in their life where they feel they have been wronged that may come back to bite you on the ass down the road and don't have any regrets about it.

Good luck :)

women have great memories and an uncanny ability to recall any event in their life where they feel they have been wronged that may come back to bite you on the ass down the road


yup

Yeah, I had girl trouble as well. Just give it some time, and see which girls decide to leave you. Then you can find the ones that actually like you.

The rules (based on past experience myself):

1) Don't date anyone with which you work. It might be fine, but if it doesn't work out things can get ugly...
2) Don't mistake Lust for Love
3) If you don't know with 100% of your being you are ready for a long term relationship... you aren't.
4) Don't dial one girl's number then ask to speak to another girl... very bad.
5) If you date more than one girl, make sure they all know about the other girls. Be honest with all of them.
6) MOST IMPORTANTLY- wrap that rascal. Use a condom no matter what, no matter HOW well you think you know them or how clean you think you/they are. Some diseases (Chlamydia, for example) can be asymptomatic and be transmitted without one party even knowing they had the disease.

Other than that... enjoy it while you can

1) Don't date anyone with which you work. It might be fine, but if it doesn't work out things can get ugly...

Don't dip your pen in the company ink.:lol

Yeah, I had girl trouble as well. Just give it some time, and see which girls decide to leave you. Then you can find the ones that actually like you.

Haha great advice, 2 girls have already weeded themselves out (the worst ones btw)